Gone are the days where at least one parent stays at home with the children to see to their needs and listen to their issues which only parents can help with. Long gone are the days where if both parents cannot stay with the children, significant others like an extended family member would be there to help out. Many families today have to deal with the constant financial pressures and this would put pressure on the parents to spend more time out of their homes looking for work and money. Most of the time it would be the older children who would be left helping out with their younger siblings.
This only leaves so very little time for the parents to spend time with the children. The argument of quality and quantity comes into focus. So which is better, quality time with the kids, or quantity time?
The most prevalent conflict for the parents to face would be which they should be obligated to deal with first, their time with the kids or the time spent at work. They may not be able to spend as much time with their children, but once they do, they have to make sure that no outside forces interfere with that time.
Children who understand that their parents time are limited so they could all eat properly, go to school and most importantly keep a roof over their head. But, this does not mean that they would not be jealous of that time. It is expected that when the parents are with them, they are going to be with them in every sense of the word.
They could actually do more things together compared to those who do not have to worry about their time. This is because they, both the parents and the children, learn to make the most of what little time they have. They do activities that would pull them closer together; they could talk about things where others would simply delay because they had the time. The children and parents could develop a friendship that would last a long time.
Children who have a chance to develop a relations through quality time together find the chance to be together even if they are not near each other. The children and parents would be able to communicate with each other. Normally children and parents would skip the communicating altogether for they hold on to the comfort that they would have a lot of time left together and things could wait. Children who spend quality time with their parents know they can give their parents a call at any time and they could cut down through the chase and know what to talk about.
It is true that quality time should not be an excuse to spend less time with parents either. Time flies so fast and before parents know it they have lost the opportunity to know their children much less develop a relationship with them. And before they know it, they have a biological relationship, and nothing much else.
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